Style:
An excuse random people of everyday life use to judge each other. It’s said
your style defines you so people take a look at how you dress and can say a
truckload of things about your personality. While this is in most times true
because our style reflects our taste; It also just means some of us wear just
what we feel comfortable as an individual.
Over
the years, individuals have always created some sense of style for themselves.
With these styles come different views and opinions; some like to look edgy,
bold and sophisticated while others choose to look
very simple or simply- classy, or just chic.
Fashion
trends come and go then return when some hot shot designer or fashion savvy
individual dusts up their closet and BAM! The old designs and clothes are back
again but this time with more improvements and vibe.
We
always have clothes, shoes, bags, scarves and so many other items of clothing
in vogue for a period and almost everyone out there is wearing them. The
greater population looks the same and those who stick to the old trends or
unique designs are judged and classified under the ‘old skool’ category or just
lacking ‘fashion sense’.
I
fall into the ‘class’ of fashion societal rejects that wouldn’t wear what the
whole town is wearing. I believe since nothing ever goes out of fashion why should I dump my old clothes and start wearing the new
‘uniform’ of society. I let myself gradually ease into the bogus new trends and
find what best suits me. Just because everyone is wearing that new gown or
jeans doesn’t mean it’s going to look good on you; we all have different body
structures that we all MUST take to consideration in relation to fashion
With
everyone trying to wear what's in vogue a lot of people make me ask a lot of
questions. I remember
Jim Iyke’s outfit on the red carpet of
the African magic viewers choice awards-
The camera showed a burst view of him and I said to myself ‘NICE BLAZER’ then
the camera zoomed out and I was like “HABA UNCLE JIM, WETIN BE THIS?” But that
was his own style; that was what he wanted to wear and deemed fit for an
official occasion. He clearly wanted to make a statement and he sure did get
all the media attention.
One Friday I was at ICM and this pretty lady wore
a navy blue playsuit, the outfit was lovely but her legs damn, especially her
thighs, they looked like my 1 year old niece’s drawing book. She had stretch marks calling at every
corner; I kept staring at her and kept saying to myself “WHY” over and over
again. I was shocked but more into the fact that she looked herself in the
mirror and still left her house that way. Well I guess she was hoping her
pretty face would distract people from the unfortunate thing she had going on
her thighs. She ruined the dress for me.
If
you are a regular of any of the beaches in Lagos, it means you are definitely
no stranger to the fashion ‘disasters and wrecks’. From the super size women in undersized
bikini’s to the stretch marks vixens or the overly unconscious semi-nudists who
show more than we want to see. My advice to all my plus size women out there, I
know we all want to look sexy and show our curves but please do it the right
way and find what suits your body. You will still look gorgeous and sexy.
Lately the new trend for ladies has been
tights, leg-ins and what some Yaba boys/traders call ‘pinging’, with and
without prints. Well, the leg-ins trend has it own drama to it. Sometime ago I
saw dis babe at Opebi wearing them and she had bow legs – My people! They were
very obvious ‘NO BE SMALL THING AT ALL’. I know we ought to be confident of our
physical structure but we also need to take into consideration what is proper
to wear not to attract unnecessary attention to ourselves. I for one, I don’t
have a big butt but I have what is termed ‘normal size’ well according to men, so
when I wear leg-ins; I wear long tops, boyfriend jackets and all just to make
sure that those baby’s are covered. Some really skinny babes with
relatively smaller butts wear crop tops and leg-ins. Some of them look nice to me but my male friends and colleagues always have something to say about it and being
me, I really don’t see anything
wrong with the outfit, however, some
of the guys feel its just wrong.
The men in our lives are so good in judging
our sense of style as women but I also think they should address certain issues
when it comes to their own fashion sense too. Sometimes when
i see guys in their extremely tight
jeans (skinnies), especially when they don’t get to ‘sag’, I can’t help but
wonder how their ‘little men’ cope. Permit my use of words but with all that
drama and with little or no breathing space, aren’t you worried something might
go wrong? Except of course if their ‘little men’ are exactly ‘little’. Guys,
the ladies know you are trying to show us the ‘structure’ of what your are
working with but c’mon; often times you give yourselves away when things go out
of control, especially at the club… When skinny guys wear tight pants, it’s not
going to cause as much harm as when muscular or bigger guys do. Use your head.
For
my ladies in heels, I know how beautiful those heels look on that girl but that
doesn’t mean it’s going to look the same on you. You have no idea what she’s
working with- No idea at all. While some
of us know how to rock those heels and even run with it some of us can’t handle
all that. Sometime you just have to learn to say NO. I laugh whenever I see
some girl struggling to walk in a 6 inch heel because it looks like putting a
horse on heels and still expecting it to walk so majestic. These models you see
rocking those heels like they were born with them didn’t just jump on the 6
inches and kill that catwalk on the runway on their first day; it was a gradual
‘journey’. You have to take a step at a
time. Start from something lower then ‘upgrade’ and stop being the butt of
jokes when you attempt to walk. Back
in my school days there were some major fashion dos and don’ts that always got
me asking a lot of questions as to why they existed
or is it that someone just made up the
rules based on her/his own taste? You
couldn’t wear a lovely dinner dress and wear your comfortable flats; it would
look like you just broke a fashion code. “Oh c’mon, why are you not wearing
heels?”, “It looks better on heels”,
“You just ruined your look”. Oh Please! What if I can’t wear heels? What if I
feel much more comfortable in my flat shoes? So if I don’t wear heels with a dress, it
means I don’t look good? Who on earth made that rule?
People
tend to make you wear what they want you to wear more and not what you really
want to wear. One couldn’t wear a striped shirted on a striped trouser, and
there was also a no-no for patterns. Everyone was wearing the ‘approved’ dress
code made by society, well until some designer debuts it on a fashion show
either in London or Paris or wherever they hold and BAM! It’s now cool to wear
stripes on stripes and mix up crazy patterns and then they sell for outrageous
prices in the market and ‘everyone’ is now rocking it.
With all being said,
my advice to every one of you is to have
your own style, fashion is all about being creative, crazy and unique and who
knows, that ‘stupid’ no-no style you have always wanted to try could be a new trendsetter
in the market. That’s how fashion works. One also has to make sure you get the
right fit for you. If you wanna show some skin- just know the right amount of
skin to show. Wearing what is most comfortable is very important; It’s all
about keeping up with the trend. Another
viable option is creating your own style with the new trend.
You mustn’t look like the girl in
the magazine, re-invent your own look.
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